Making Your Last Wishes
The most important thing to understand about writing down last wishes for your funeral is that they are not a legally binding document and your family can ignore them.
In order to ensure that your funeral wishes are carried out, a will needs to be drawn up and an executor appointed. The executor need not be next of kin or a family member, but does need to be someone you trust to see your wishes fulfilled.
Executors have the last say. If there is more than one, ensure that they are going to agree with each other. If there is, for example, more than one child, appoint one as executor if you think there may be disagreements, as children have equal say — which could cause trouble!!
In fact, it is a good idea to organise a dinner or lunch and ask everyone who will be affected by your decisions (whether it is regarding your last wishes or your will) to attend, and one or two people who are completely neutral to act as moderators. This way, your plans can be discussed and amended as necessary.
In many cases you will be pleasantly surprised to find that it is all more amicable than you had expected. No doubt it doesn’t always work that way, but it’s worth a try for your peace of mind.
Always keep a copy of your funeral wishes separate from your will, as well as with the will if you like, and let more than one person know where your wishes are kept.
Last Wishes Funerals
Last Wishes Funerals • Holme Lea • Slingsby • YO62 4AU
Telephone: 01653 627 170 • Mobile: 07824 639 244 • E-mail: [email protected]